Ok, I"m gonna try to make a really long story short.
My man's son (17 in August) came to live with us last year after not being able to cut it w/ his mom and step-dad. The kid had a history of behavior problems and no initiative, but in his defense, it was the way he was raised. He was with us for 7 months, totally took advantage of me and my over-generosity, got into trouble repeatedly until the point when I took him to the ER for a psych eval and they transferred him into an in-patient adolescent psych facility. His mother went and took him out the next day because she didn't think he needed to be there.
He was back with them for a couple months before he got locked up in juvie for 4 months. While he was there he was diagnosed bi-polar and medicated. I have noticed a slight improvement since he as been out (May), but I haven't spent a whole lot of time with him.
Yesterday his step-dad called my man and said he wasn't welcome there anymore and can he come get him. Later in the day I spoke to his sister (different dad) and she told me that it is not all him...that their step-dad is a lazy fuck who thinks if they express an opinion that they are talking back.
So, here's where it gets tricky. My man is not on baord with the idea of having him try it with us again because he thinks the same things will happen and it really broke my heart before.
I can't believe that this kid is a lost cause and the helper in me wants to let him try it again with us. I found an excellent school that goes year 'round right around the corner from where I work but I have to register him tonight to get him in.
What should I do? Please help.
I am so with all the above...but isabellann's sticks out the most. The worst thing you can do is give up once you've started. Good Luck!
At least register school for him you can always cancel at a later date...Like the one post before..I work every day with people who are bi-polar among other things and there are millions of people who make it just fine...but it is not an easy road..read...talk to people who are bi-polar and a making it work...be armed with the knowledge that will help you all. Don't know where you are from but there are a lot of support groups around that can help.....Good Luck....
She's an idiot. Ok, it's not all her fault because that is the way she was raised, but it still pisses me off. I think she is doing the best that she can. She has 6 kids, so....
Wow tough decision but I agree with everyone give him another shot.
Why does he get into so much trouble? Isn't the mom there being a mom or is she more of a friend..
You are a good person, considering this situation. I think as long as this kid is safe, meaning he doesn't throw things at you, hit you or your loved ones, etc., then for sure a second chance. Would go to a counseling session with him and design a contract of acceptable rules and behaviors for him to sign before coming on board. Also make it manditory that he pitches in, keeps his room clean, does chores, and gets a part time job to cover his own expenses.
Good luck, Kool. Who knows? This may be the restart that changes everything and sends him off in a positive direction.
Now you have the meds on your side... Think positive! =)
kaye. i thought that the first time he came to live with us and i was wrong. :-(
hi terra!! miss you.
ok, you guys are thinking the same as I am. now i just have to convince his dad.
thanks!
yeah I would try again especially since the medication seems like it might be helping
If he is trying, it would be too hard to not give him a chance. You never know. Maybe it will be staying with you that turns it all around for him now.
Id give him a try....
I know you...and you cant not try...I would
wow K. sorry to hear all that, but i'm with you, if he's being medicated and he's trying, i'd have to give atleast try once more... i hope it all works out for you.