Ok, I"m gonna try to make a really long story short.
My man's son (17 in August) came to live with us last year after not being able to cut it w/ his mom and step-dad. The kid had a history of behavior problems and no initiative, but in his defense, it was the way he was raised. He was with us for 7 months, totally took advantage of me and my over-generosity, got into trouble repeatedly until the point when I took him to the ER for a psych eval and they transferred him into an in-patient adolescent psych facility. His mother went and took him out the next day because she didn't think he needed to be there.
He was back with them for a couple months before he got locked up in juvie for 4 months. While he was there he was diagnosed bi-polar and medicated. I have noticed a slight improvement since he as been out (May), but I haven't spent a whole lot of time with him.
Yesterday his step-dad called my man and said he wasn't welcome there anymore and can he come get him. Later in the day I spoke to his sister (different dad) and she told me that it is not all him...that their step-dad is a lazy fuck who thinks if they express an opinion that they are talking back.
So, here's where it gets tricky. My man is not on baord with the idea of having him try it with us again because he thinks the same things will happen and it really broke my heart before.
I can't believe that this kid is a lost cause and the helper in me wants to let him try it again with us. I found an excellent school that goes year 'round right around the corner from where I work but I have to register him tonight to get him in.
What should I do? Please help.