I am soooo disappointed. What the HELL was he thinking. He's in NY state with his dad (my ex-huz). Ex huz told me yesterday that Jay refused a urine sample. said it was against his rights. Hes on Probation---he has no rights. He got fired from his job last week too for insubordination. Actually he told the forman to go fuck off. which got him fired. Found out earlier, he DIDNT finish his last two credits to get his HS diploma on top of all that. Ex was hoping he wouldnt have to tell me that and in the meantime Jay would just do it. Jay is arguing that his GED is good enough. The Army recruiter is going to revoke his enlistment as well. Though he ACED the ASVAB....no diploma no enlistment. Because of his record. Jay just figured it wasnt important and the Army would just overlook it. Its the warped sense of entitlement he has.
I should have known something was going on. Last week a Gunnery Sgt Recruiter called me from this area, not NY state. He said Jay had been talking to him. GUNNERY SGT?? THATS MARINES! I asked if he was aware that Jay needs two credits to grad and he was on probation for possession of mandated property with no serial number. I let him know I was an Army wife and certainly we would be proud as all go if Jay made it into the Marines. He then felt more comfortable talking to me. It was a very nice talk where I was honest withhim that yes Jay knows and seeks out "structured enviroments" which we both agreed that was great and haha, what more structure can you get than with the Marines. He told me Jay faxed over 3 very good reccommendations. From fire/amb cheif in NY and one from Fire/amb Cheif here in NH and one from his former intructor. That he wants to go into the Medic program. I told Gunny that Jay has a real problem with authority. he laughed "ma'am, we still take problems like that on occassion. The Marines will fix that Ma'am"
I fear that now Jay has blown any opp for Military. Maybe thats what he really wanted to do, and I just dont know. I never expected him to join any branch in the first place but was delighted when I was told he enlisted in the Army. I was really getting my hopes up once again. So now, his probation is going back to NH/VT. For which is very likely he'll be re-arrested. I'm afraid to ask Dean to take him back in. Its not fair to him at all. Either way he is going to have to deal with him. If he doesnt come here then....well.... He'll be at my husbands prison in SPFLD VT. Unfortunately in GEN POP.
Jay is a social idiot about some things. Oh yes, he is charming and polite. He's a chatter but in a nice way. Adults are often impressed with his knowlege on many subjects, but he doesnt "flaunt" his intellegence, and thats what makes adults say, gee what a great kid. When faced with any kind of threat to him hes an IDIOT. He's stupid enough to say to these hardend criminals "yeah just try it... my dad works here ...." Oh what better notch on an inmates belt than assault on a CO's kid!!"
I dont know what the military accepts anymore and am having trouble getting that info straight from anyone or online. I have heard they do take kids much like Jay, but they dont advertise it and dont want to say it. I dont know if I am willing to stick my neck out for Jay anymore, but I cant bear the other option. I dont see that prison is going to help this kid. I think it will
only make him more angry, more depressed, and certainly give him carte blanche to make bad choices.
Any thoughts on this? trying so hard not to break down and cry.....or strangle him! No wait...strangle him then break down and cry.