I have a friend who dates only biotshes, not just biotches but the worst of them... then actually wonders why when he is ready to commit to them, that he gets treated poorly. I mean, he is a grown ass man and still repeats this. What is the definition of insanity? it is doing the same thing over and over & expecting different results isn't it? He's a sweet guy. It's sad. And if it was like highschool, even twentish age I could maybe see, but man. I'm dealing with serious life issues and he just lives by these games and then wonders what's up and wants the bleeding heart from our friends. He does know, he has been told. On top of that he always makes sure to get girls by his job titles, like he always makes sure that they know he's a Dr., know everything he owns, know he comes from a wealthy family. All I can think is when woman keep dating the same negative dating behavior, it is somehow related to their negative father/ daughter relationship somehow. Not always, but often. I guess guys are like this too. Only I always thought he had a great relationship w/ her, she knows how to be happy. I mean long, wonderful marriage. Waited about 10 years and at, I think, 92, she married again. Honestly, I know this sounds mean, but I'm just leaving him on his own. I already started too once and felt bad. I'm not feeling bad anymore. Bottom line, he is an adult. Maybe when nobody is there next time, he'll do better with all this when he gets back up or something. Bottom line, it's his choice & I guess he should deal w/ the consequences. He just comes to me w/ this, well you wouldn't be with me, now look??? I ain't looking any more. It's not appreciated, it's not listened too... he just lost access. :(
I just thought, you know I
I just thought, you know I was always there before for him... I bet I'm the one with the problem. Remember I said I wasn't dealing w/ this type of stuff til I got my stuff organized. See... I was right. I'll just not be available for his phone calls until I am in a better mind set. man, glad we had this talk Blue... :))))
one more thing.. had I not
one more thing.. had I not stumbled across that one job search site, I would have kept banging down the insurance doors thinking it was me. So, that is a good thing that I got to know this information.
ps - one the resume' I don't
ps - one the resume' I don't think insurance is the industry that I should have focused on. There were 97 - 386 applying on other executive type jobs. When the updates came back on the insurance ones, ready... ik your not... 7,980 applicants from across the country... no joke. Apparently all of the insurance admin jobs were sent over seas. :( Man... oh well, gotta keep going. Like KR when he got up, kept going til he made it, like Rev Run always says. :)))
ohhh - that makes sense, so
ohhh - that makes sense, so that is what I did. This guy, who lives in Fl, not just a Dr. a heart surgeon so he has to be smart too, ( u can see him on my fb Blue ), anyway he is sweet, but over the top on drama, which life is too short for that. I wish him well, that's about the best and really the most from where I am, that I can do :) Thx Blue - Hugs to you!! :))) Gotta go... did about 100 resume' last week, time to send follow ups and drop bys :)
method of operation, lol
method of operation, lol
ummm... what is a moo??? I
ummm... what is a moo??? I should know but I don't. All I can think of is a cow, I guess b/c I was just talking about the farm. but what is it?
You know I don't think good girls avoid him. I think that they just want something real, not games. That's all. :)
The other issue is that if
The other issue is that if his MOO is known, and decent women avoid him like the plague, thus limiting the pool.
That is so sad. That means
That is so sad. That means he has no hope in that part of his life. :( You know I always was one of those faces that people just felt like talking to. From back when I was a kid. Even then these couples that would work our farm for extra things that came up like Tabacco harvest etc. All else including planting, we did. But anyway... I remember this adult with a fat lip and black eye telling me that she only dated him for something to do, until somebody better came along. Just stricktly dating for fun. She married him. I never forgot that and thought, let a snake in... then devil may win and destiny may never come your way again. I never forgot that. Then as I got older, heard "only choose a date that would make a good mate".. and she came to mind. It's true. I just wish there wasn't so much heartache in this world ya know. I may still listen to this guy, but next time I am stricktly saying, "It's your fault. You had many chances, not like first time or second. I do not want to hear more on this. So.. whatelse is going on in your life." Then I'm not being cruel, but I'm not being sucked into the drama either and hopefully he realizes... it's time for better choices. That's seems not so harsh and mean, but not allowing negative behavior to continue at least where I am directed. I mean has he not ever heard, peaceful wife/ peaceful life - happy wife / happy life??? That's as old as ... idk what, but it's pretty old :)))
Committment issues. If he
Committment issues. If he picks a bad girl, he doesn't have to view the relationship with a future and a purpose, he can move on whenever is gets tough. Think folks do this a lot.
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