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    KidRockAngel says (12 Sep '11)

    I been busy as hell, anything exciting going on?

     

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on Mon, 09/12/2011 - 12:30pm

I been busy as hell, anything exciting going on?

 

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KRSVal's picture

He hee Just Because..sounds like you have a good sense of humor to get you thru!!
Every once in awhile my hubby will say..are you going to divorce me? And I say nah, you're stuck with me whether you like it or not--Then I will say, are you going to divorce me? he answers, no, too expensive!! he haa
And all my friends know not to call me on Friday mornings because the kids are in school and hubby has the day off!! LOL (not that Fridays are it, but nice not to have to be quiet--TMI alert!)
@MB...sounds like you have it figured out!!
@RSMS..no doubt it is hard, not many ppl are good at compromising..you can't always have your own way and that is hard for some ppl (like my brother--married 5 times, can't stand to be alone).
@Lisa...it is good that you are secure and happy with yourself. Everything you wrote is so true :)
My sis and I are both fine with being alone--vacations, eating out, etc...many ppl are not.

MsBehavin's picture

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MsBehavin's picture

i don't have any kids--which is probably a GOOD thing--because--i would point out these three things--lol :-)
Number 1.) there were no laws in the 80's--until, WE!!!!!! GEN X, came along--we made every law you know now--so do not try to pull a fast one. BEEN there--done that. And now there is a law for it--so ~Pffftt-lol :-)
Number 2.) The internet---i may know ~Dos---but your best friend knows Benjamin Franklin--i will have a facebook page tracking your every move up faster then you can say, "NyQuil" so Peace :-) my young-un :-)
Number 3.) Let me quote my Dad---"While you live under my roof---you will abide by the rules of this house"

just because's picture

It is hard but we are finding now that the kids are grown we are remembering who WE are and why WE are together. Kinda like we are young again always wanting to...well,you know!

rocksavedmysoul's picture

I'll have to remember that on Just Because. Brilliant! LOL
Seriously, though, marriage is hard.

just because's picture

And my husband and I made an agreement that if one of us wanted a divorce that person had to take the kids. We've been married a long time...not saying it kept us together...LMAO

just because's picture

My son is turning 22 tomorrow and my daughter is 23. Both good kids, hard working and not afraid to tell each other and us "I love you". They fight like siblings do and give me grief over sometimes nothing...I still get eye rolling. My son told me last summer that we did a good job with them cause they didn't try drugs till they graduated and were on their own. I don't know that I totally believe that but it was nice of him to say (I think). I've said before...little kids, little problems...big kids, big problems. Glad the days of homework are done and we are almost done with financial aid forms ugh!
KRLO: You're right, the cops were more lenient. You could get pulled over and they would dump your beer and let you go. (not that I condone that or drinking and driving. Just sayin' we were stupid and young and did dumb shit).
Mrs. Cedar: I used to tell my daughter (cause shes the one who always pushed my buttons) "I have feelings too! I'm a person just like you and when you talk to me with disrespect it hurts". She would stop and think for a minute than storm off and slam the door! Good luck! Motherhood is the hardest job :)

KRLO's picture

KRCVAL, you ARE swimming in uncharted waters, we didn't have facebook, twitter, phones w/ tons of apps on them, and the internet. I also was a wild child, but the cops then were much more forgiving, Not Now! Just don't let one lie turn into many.

Mrs Cedar Michigan's picture

I wish kids came with instructions.... I recently looked my 13yr old in the eye and said, "Listen...I'm just a person...I try to do the best I can every day...thats all I can promise..." ...I think it flew right over his head....but atleast I tried... seems shocking to him, that I have actually NOT been put on this earth, to be a servant/taxi to him and his sisters....

KRSVal's picture

Well KRLO, you are certainly helping me out b/c I am already giving my son the benefit of the doubt, and it has not turned out well (lying, etc.) Bright kid--he has not been mature enough to make the right decisions sometimes. So then we pull back privileges. I was completely taken off guard when one day my son said..."Mom, you have all the power. I just try to pull your strings." HOOKAAY..truth be told, we are all swimming in uncharted waters until we experience stuff along the way to learn the ropes, even if we ourselves were a 'wild child'.
Re; Marriage and children: I think marriage is mostly about compromise, and raising children is mostly about sacrifice and discipline (discipline from the latin, 'to teach lovingly' ex: disciple). That is why they can be tough!!

KRLO's picture

Mrs. Cedar, my kids did laugh their asses off, like I'm not signing anything you dolt. I responded w/ fine where do you need to go cuz you don't drive till this is signed. How will it look having Mommy drop you off and pick you up from the football game, dance, friends house, school, pretty dorky. right? I even went so far as to make a smaller version, laminated it and super glued it in the car. I also called all their friends parents and told them about the contract, and guess what. Most of the parents made their kids sign contracts as well. Then my kids hated me more cuz their friends hated me as well. It was an about face for me and hard to do. I was kind of a cupcake w/ them at first till my middle one started getting into drugs and basically bullshit, vandalism etc. He is 20 now and doing great now, like I said earlier. The key was just being consistent, I punished them all the same and each and every time. Finally got through to him that he was not getting away w/ this shit in our home. At some time their mush of brains matures and they start to not act on their impulses. Anyhoo thanks for lending an ear, or a pair of eyeballs.

LK's Soap Box's picture

Val, that's a nice progression in life -- La Dolce Vita!!

Actually, my dad had us kids sign a contract and I still have it, I treasure it actually. My brother found an abandoned beautiful purebred German Shepherd and brought her home. I was thrilled because I've always been a huge dog lover (currently I have three that equal 250 lbs total, you shouldn't have more dogs than arms tho ; ) But, dad said no way and I was crushed. Although, he came home the next day after work with a bag of dog food and wrote up a contract that basically said if any problems happen because of the dog, she's got to go. We agreed and all signed it (he also said he wouldn't be responsible for the feeding or exercise, etc. of the dog. ; )

She basically was my dog and was with me always, she really was the neighborhood dog too. She would pull us on our skateboards and things like that. But, she hated cats. Although she never harmed another animal, we ended up getting sued a few times -- one time too many actually. So, yeah, dad gave MY dog (of years) to a friend that had pasture land and I never saw her again. Honestly, I'm still not over that!! Obviously, my dad didn't fool around (career navy guy who fought in seven major battles in WWII) but, WHO DOES THAT?!! Parents can be cruel sometimes. I'll probably have to be at the Pearly Gates myself before I'm able to forgive him 100% for that decision. Needless to say, I don't like contracts!! But, I think it would have been the same outcome regardless of the pact.

I'll end on a good note and let everyone know that I possess the CUTEST dogs in the entire world. One is so smart I have to spell around him! ; ) He's a mix of a Traditional Shar Pei, Pointer, German Shepherd, Golden Retriever and a Brittany. I know this because I'm a geek and got a DNA test on them. It's good to know behavioral and health issues, that's how I'll qualify it! I didn't go out and get these dogs, they came to me; and I'm thankful for that, they bring me a lot of joy.

KRSVal's picture

You ladies are the greatest:)
KRC Val's story: went to school, got an education, worked and supported myself for a long time. Got married when I was 35..had kids when I was 37 and 38. Have done part-time gigs since the kids were born; mostly a domestic engineer presently, which is OK because there is a lot to take care of around here!!! Married to a younger man (much easier to train the younger ones he hee) who isn't perfect, but neither am I, so we muddle thru this crazy thing called life together, knowing we have each other's backs. Plus, I always have a drinking partner lol :)
KRLO, I hope I survive the teen years..we're just starting them now.

Mrs Cedar Michigan's picture

although...when I was growing up.... I would have laughed my ass off if someone had tried to get me to sign something like that....lol

Mrs Cedar Michigan's picture

....a contract..what an awesome idea...

LK's Soap Box's picture

Yeah, certainly some people get married or continue to be with someone for the wrong reasons, and they pay the price for that in the end!! They're so afraid of "being alone" that they stay in a messed up, sad situation; or can't detangle themselves from a harmful, codependent relationship. That's no way to live life -- it's not that long, make the best of it!

There's not one person I have to answer to, and that's not a bad deal at all. Being alone is not the same as at-one-ment, so-to-speak. I think it does the mind, body and soul some good to spend time with yourself -- to me it's a necessity really. Some people tho have bad "self chatter" because of low self esteem etc, and I think they have the hardest time being alone. It's sounds cliché, but is so true -- learn to love yourself first, and the rest will fall into place. How is that for a kumbaya rant?!! ; )

And, of course, some are lucky to have a great companion, like you. To me that's the true definition of "Friends with Benefits" ; ) Congratulations on 25 years, that's neat!

KRLO's picture

Lk Thanks for your well wishes. My niece has no wish to get married, I totally agree w/ her decision, she was even relunctant to tell me because she thought I only thought married people could find happiness, So So not true. Actually my husband does most of the shopping, I fly through and just throw things in the cart, he carefully checks each price and brand. I let him shop and I pay the bills. We laugh a lot, and I think that is why we are going on 25 years next year. However I know quite a few that have miserable marraiges and I find that sad.

LK's Soap Box's picture

That's great KRLO -- I'm glad he was able to turn himself around -- some don't, and put their parents through hell for a lifetime. That would be hard to take, to say the least.

LK's Soap Box's picture

My sister has been married to a great guy for 30 years. I seriously think that for past 30 years my sister hasn't had to go to the grocery store, balance the check book or send out the bills -- for three decades!! Yesterday, I mowed and trimmed my lawn and you would have thought I ran a marathon!! I'm getting too old for this stuff! I've got to rethink this marriage thing I tell ya!! Then again, I could just hire a gardener -- a handsome gardener at that. Yeah, yeah, maybe that's the way to go!!

No, I have nothing against marriage, some of us don't find the right and perfect person until later in life, that's my story; and, after all, good things come to those who wait. And to all you out there that married, and are still married to, your high school sweetheart -- first, wow!! -- and congratulations -- no small feat!! Some find the right and perfect person when they're very young (and stupid ; ) Again, just poking fun at a life with a ball and chain at an early age vs an old age. Either way, it's nice, I'm sure to have a ying to a yang -- but, I'm here to tell ya that life without a spouse isn't a bad, or hard, way to live. Some, no doubt, should try it and see -- just sayin.

KRLO's picture

My middle son went through a bad bad time, It was almost to the point we were going to kick him out, but by this time law enforcement stepped in and that was the best thing that ever happened to him. Very expensive and hard for us, but about 6 months ago, he came and apologized for the shit he put us through. I cried and cried but I realized he Finally got it. Only bit of advise I have is this... If you think something is wrong then it is wrong, You are the adults, they are your children, . I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt, WAY WRONG THING TO DO. Anyway sorry I turned this into an Oprah Show, never watch her by the way. And BTW my kid is doing great, he is in college and has A JOB!!!

LK's Soap Box's picture

Marriage? Not familiar with that concept either?!! Some of us are just lucky!! Just kidding. I'm sure there's a lot of benefits to that arrangement -- maybe some day I'll find out -- or maybe not. It's all good either way. Although, it would be nice to not have to do EVERYTHING!! A small price to pay for paradise! ; )

KRSVal's picture

LK you sweetie, that's why we go on Kid Rock Cruises--to take care of ourselves--LOLOL
But you are right, parenting is the toughest job you will ever love (next to marriage :))
My hubby and I have an arrangement--he goes on hunting trips with his buddies, and I go to concerts with mine..works out great ! Of course we do a lot together, but I think it is important to have individual interests also.
PS Homework totally sucks!! Parents are NOT PROFESSIONAL EDUCATORS--except in life lessons (from an ex substitute teacher, altho my sis in law, full time teacher, agrees)

rocksavedmysoul's picture

I think after helping three kids with homework, I'll be ready to take on Jeopardy. Yeah, I thought when the kids got older, it would get EASIER. Boy, was I wrong! But I love 'em, just the same. KRLO, I'm gonna use your tips since mine are just starting to drive. I thought I was going to have a heart attack the first time my son drove me. CEDARS, I laughed when I read about doing your homework the first time. Thanks to everyone for the fun comments. Laughter will get us through it all. Nice discussion Angel.

LK's Soap Box's picture

I was spoiled. I didn't pay for anything (I didn't work until I was 18; and that was just so I could take a trip to Hawaii, and then to pay my way through college) and, growing up, I didn't have a curfew either. Despite that, I was a pretty good kid -- at least that's what my dad always said, and believed. In fact my parents never "grounded" me. That concept is completely alien to me. In the end, I actually was a pretty good kid. Besides, all the other kids had curfews, so it had a way of working itself out in the end.

But, no sex KRLO?!! Isn't that a little harsh ; )~ just kidding. Can you tell that I don't have kids? Thought someday I would, but it wasn't in the cards. No worries, I'm perfectly content. But I also don't have "the worry" either. Honestly, that worry would probably make me the most annoying mother on the planet, well, besides my own mother of course!! Again, just kidding. It's a parent's job to worry and, therefore, be annoying! It just can't be helped -- if you live to be 100, you'll still worry about your 80 year old "kid" and rightfully so.

Interestingly enough, I too am sentence to homework jail -- my own. So, I better get back at it. Of course, goofing off on this site is just so much more fun than tedious homework -- boo! Certainly, all you mothers and fathers out there should pat yourselves on the back. No doubt, parenthood, despite being the most rewarding job in the world is, by far, the hardest job in world. You don't have to be a parent to know that. But, also, don't forget that it's important to take care of yourselves along the way too -- there seems to be a lot of mother's, especially, out there that tend to forget that part of the equation.

KRSVal's picture

Good ideas, KRLO...I also had to work to get gas money or no using the car (a big fat V-8- Grand Marquis by the way--baby blue with a white top--classy! he hee) It would stall at the top of the hill by the school where we had a stopsign, and everyone would honk at me to get the thang moving-good times :)

KRLO's picture

We got off the homework jail time last year, Last one just graduated. I have to tell you the worst, over the homework jail is the 'I'm sixteen and I have my liscense jail' You will never sleep again, but to calm these fears, write out a contract between you and your teen, 'No drinking, drugs, sex in the car, you will pay half the insurance or you do not drive the car, I.E. get a job, no texting while driving. If you get into an accident, you pay us back for the deductible before you can drive again I.E. get a job, Answer cell phone when parental units call or you do not drive for 2 weeks or whatever your time frame is. Ton more I could add, feel free to add your own, others who have gone through this.

Mrs Cedar Michigan's picture

yeah.....homework jail.... you know, I didn't even enjoy doing it the first time....I can't even believe I'm doing it again.... how fair is that?

kidrockangel's picture

We are living the life arent we...lol Thats ok cause we are women Hear us ROAR

rocksavedmysoul's picture

homework jail-ha ha ha ha ha I don't mind homework if it's not that crappy busy work or useless projects.

KRSVal's picture

I've been busy with Mom's Taxi and Laundry Service, also...
Plus add in Homework Jail (why did summer end again?)
But not too busy to dedicate a picture on Community Archives to KRA from Allegan, MI show he hee

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