Let me start out first by saying I have listened to the new cd so much, I've just about wore it out. Yesterday, I was off work and had an appointment 2 hrs from home. Was sitting in the parking lot waiting for my scheduled time to go in. It was 12 years ago yesterday that I loss my Daddy to cancer. "When it Rains" starting playing. I've listened to the words many times; however, yesterday it hit me like a max truck lossing my Dad! I had a total meltdown right there in my truck! Holy shit...I have never stopped missing him, and I know that family is suppose to be everything. My brother & sister have been totally greedy & selfish since Daddy died. My bday was on Friday, didn't hear from either of them until over the weekend when they tried pressuring me into giving up my share of the last piece of property that we have left from our Dad. They already screwed me out of one house! I'm not given in! I just wanted to say this song really hit home for me! I have been told that I have always been too nice and give in too easy! I'm fighting this time! God Bless Bobby for this song! Thank you!
Oh Hun.. Your story brought me to tears. God Bless you and your family!!!
The first time I heard "When It Rains" I completely broke down. I lost my brother to a drug overdose March 10, 2009. The part that say's "in the weight of the news it nearly broke my back" could not have been more true. I was completely crushed. My brother battled drug addiction for many years and I have seen him win a few battles, but unfortunatley he lost the war. For those who have loved ones that have addictions you know the feeling of watching a loved one slowly killing themselves. You feel helpless. Be supportive of them as I can assure you this is not a choice for them but a disease. I watched my brother suffer so much, and no one will ever make me believe he chose to live that way. It was just simply bigger and stronger than he could handle and ultimately it took his life. My advice is to be supportive. You may not agree with thier choices but they need to know that you love them unconditionally. When you get frustrated and ask "why can't you just stop using", remember, as the addiction grows, they can't "just stop". The only way they can feel any sense of relief is with the drugs. I have watched my brother go through withdrawal so many times and it was a living hell for him. Sometimes, you just are not strong enough to win. If you find yourself faced with this situation, please, standby them, and let them know you love them. Remember, addicts have a very low self esteem, therefore it is so very important that they know you do not pass judgement on them. Fight for them when they can not, share their burden, and never, ever let them die thinking you did not care. I will soon face the 2 year anniversary of his death, and it hurts today just as bad as it did when it happened. To my brother I would like to say "Gary, I love you and miss you more than you could ever know; your death took a part of me that will never return, for it is with you. My prayer is that you are finally at peace."
I get the feeling that song is very personal to the lyricist. And it came/comes from a place of great pain/loss. It is cool that we all share it, because it has rained on us all at some point. Least something excellent came out of it when KID ROCK did the music for it. A song that i think will transcend time, musical barriers, tastes, genres etc.
Music/lyrics are to be heard, not just thought about...Thanks KR for making this one happen.
Bobbie Jean & Angel, Thank you so much! I do feel better after talking with you today and reading the responses that ya'll have sent back to me! It really means alot! As you can tell, I have been a total wreck this past week! I am going to stand firm against them! I know with God's help & Daddy looking down, they will give me the strength I need. Thanks again! Love ya'll too!
oopsy - Tracie - its bobbiejean at yahoo07, I had to redo everything cause of my system problems, forgot to chg my name back though, in the middle of a million things, but as promised I had to see the PAIN TRAIN :( and dont know how to delete other log on I have. tried to see if could just delete throughout til gone, but not working. guess for this one, I use bobbiejean07 or something. delete 1st page when have time to check into it. :) watcha ya gonna do... :)
amen Bobbie jean
Tracie, I know that your Daddy had to let go, and telling him that had to be the hardest thing that you have ever done. Although he's not physically here to hold you, he's looking down here upon you, so you do him proud. Stand your ground and do what you know would make him proud. You have been such a blessing to many w/ your caring, understanding and kindheartedness, For instance w/ me today. So first I want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH for the much needed laughter. I have no doubt just from the few times we've talked as well as here, that you are like that to probabley everyone you meet. Sometimes people disquise meekness for weekness when the truth is, it takes greater strength to be meek. Regardless there are times for the bare strength that is behind that meekness to show, I think this is one of those times; by just merely sticking to your guns. Do what you know is right in your heart, what your Dad wanted. In time the siblings will get over it. Know that although we cant put our arms around ya and just give ya a big old hug physically, we are doing that verbally, hopefully and wholeheartedly!
luv ya lady & keep going!
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Thank you Bell! I understand the feeling!
There are times to fight and times to fold......kick some butt girl!
When it rains flooded me when I first heard it. I never thought a song would take me back to that place in time. After the smoke cleared and the 15th anniversary passed I realized something amazing.The song had helped me deal with the death of someone I loved dearly. It's a hard thing to be 17. Then to have to live with the memories of that night. It will always make me sad, but the tears I had been withholding for years and years finally fell. I walked away stronger than I was before, not whole but stronger.
Thanks Angel! I'm fighting like hell to keep from losing our cottage on the Pungo River. That was my Daddy's favorite place and I have some wonderful memories spending time down there fishing and hanging out with him. I have been the only one who has actually been going down there and keeping the house maintained the last 4 years. (I was living in FL. for almost 5 yrs) and neither one bothered to go down and keep things up like it should be. I have put my blood, sweat & tears into that house, not to mention just about every damn penny I have! It's sad when the only thing holding your family together are your parents. I loss my Mom back in '88 to cancer. So Daddy was my rock! He held on for me, because he knew deep down how my brother & sister would be. I had to be strong and tell him on the night he died that"it was ok to let go. I would be alright". It was the hardest damn thing I have ever had to do. 2 hrs later he was gone. I would give anything including myself just for him to be back! I know that he is in a better place, and not suffering anymore. I hate being alone!
STAND YOUR GROUND.
The song is a killer!!!! my eyes were red and puffy for days. lol